tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2387764971608625381.post7416450325134481625..comments2023-09-21T05:32:45.328-07:00Comments on Praedicamentum: Ups and DownCynthiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13227696221918307232noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2387764971608625381.post-30485486273916253702011-03-21T06:25:38.701-07:002011-03-21T06:25:38.701-07:00I seriously just wrote you the longest comment eve...I seriously just wrote you the longest comment every and google ate it... again.<br /><br />Nutshell: Have a private wedding. Just parents and possibly siblings in a church followed by a sit-down meal at your home if possible. People may complain but you know what, if they love you, they will come. A wedding day is first for God's glory, second for you and your spouse's enjoyment, third for your friends and families to enjoy. We have the tendency to invert that order, don't we? Stick to your guns!! I know the grandmothers dream of a big beautiful wholesome abundant wedding that will have a write-up in the Gazette, but if family tensions make that impossible anyway, there's not much use in inviting a bunch of people to a stressful banquet you can't afford, eh? There is an established precedent in Catholic culture for private weddings. If that appeals to you, just do it. Elopements are only appealing because they avoid the awkwardness of "why" isn't everybody else invited/coming. Simply say you prefer it small and affordable. Spend one honeymoon week seeing the sights in Montreal, and spend the second one visiting loved ones and celebrating (or having them over, or going out with friends, whatever).Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05891386419594423687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2387764971608625381.post-80764341239692987382011-03-19T16:48:35.247-07:002011-03-19T16:48:35.247-07:00First of all; my heart totally goes out to you- it...First of all; my heart totally goes out to you- it is a difficult decision indeed.<br /><br />A while ago when I was dating Guillaume, I felt the same. My anti-French family vs- his anti-English family. His parents didn't even invite my mom inside for coffee after a 1 1/2hr drive! It was awkward. I often wondered how our lives would intertwine without cutting one of the families off. When he stopped wanting to go visit my mom and stay at her place but we were constantly going to his parents' place- I was livid. So I know what you mean when you say family is important.<br /><br />I think that your mom throwing off your dessert idea was kind of rough, I mean- yeah you're going to YOUR DAUGHTERS' wedding. Feel free to help out and make this the happiest day of her life. <br /><br />I'd say that (haha okay I saw it done on a bride show- I think Bride SOS) you need to have the 2 families- at least the dominant members- all sit down BEFORE the wedding and talk, patch things up- for the sake of you and Jeff. It would take stress off of the actual wedding date. Maybe before arranging the family meet, sit down with each family individually (you and Jeff) and discuss any problems or grievances- and then have bygones be bygones.<br /><br />You can't start a "new" life together with problems from the past tagging along causing problems.<br /><br />Also maybe stop racking your brain and ask your mom and his mom, your Greek grandmother, whoever you want to feel "part" of your wedding- what they think you should do to include that part of their heritage. I mean keeping in mind that you have a limited budget.<br /><br />In the end, know that you have me- and I will be here holding your hand along the way. Je Tm beaucoup! xoRoamingGnome2https://www.blogger.com/profile/02855551482549500016noreply@blogger.com